Respect VS Fear

 Emotions are a daily part of our lives. Respect and fear they are two different sides of an emotion. Often, people are in this misconception that to fear is to respect. They claim that real respect is when you have people scared of you. Does respect come from the fear people have or does it come from the inner feeling of admiration someone has for something?

Respect can be defined as the evaluation and consideration of ideas, values, feelings, thoughts of the person. The feeling of respect is something that can be earned with the calm and well mannered behavior and fear can be regarded as the terrific feeling inside the person which can be exploited everywhere at any place. The word fear and respect are close to each other as fear leads to destruction as respect always helps in building the personality of a person.

Parenting has a lot to differentiate between fear and respect.

If a child or teenager is treated with respect at home, it is likely he will respond positively to being treated with respect at school. But if he is hit at home and he knows that he can't be hit at school, the teacher's job will be more difficult. This is one reason why I believe it is important that we train all teachers in how to earn the respect of their students. Ideally, I would also like to see all parents and future parents trained in how to earn the respect of their children. Some, of course, can do this naturally, but I believe most people could use some formal training. The relation between students and their teachers, parents and their off springs, and boss and an employee can moreover go through this process of differentiation between fear and respect. 

Respect is something that can be earned which develops our personality and broadens the knowledge level leading us to the glory where the fear can be regarded as the forced feeling which never enhances the success of the person.

I believe that respect is one of the bases of control. But this respect must be earned and it must be mutual. It cannot be forced or demanded. It must not be confused with fear. If we confuse fear and respect we are returning to the use of fear.

Confidence VS Arrogance

 Being who you are is confidence that is always loved and accepted. On the other hand if you’re trying to show how good you are, that’s vanity and a perfect ingredient for a disaster. Confidence can be mistaken for arrogance and vice-versa. Confidence can be defined as faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way in contrast arrogance is having a sense of overbearing self-worth or self-importance.

Who is more successful, a confident leader or an arrogant leader? I would opt for a confident leader over an arrogant leader. Confidence allows one to look through a different perspective, rather than looking through just his eyes and that’s the most important trait a leader should have. Confident leader is always flexible and can adapt to changes easily unlike the arrogant ones, that’s what makes someone successful and a happy person. For instance a confident leader would say “I am a good speaker” whereas an arrogant leader would say “nobody is a good orator than me.” A self centered personality is less likely to be followed. Arrogance and ignorance always sits close together. Such leaders cannot really know a lot, as there is so little room in their mind for ideas.

Being confident is always praised and pleased, however being over confident leads to arrogance, it’s a false perception of oneself. For example, talking about something you know without any doubt as well as accepting your mistakes and faults would be confidence but talking as if you know everything about it would be over confident and boasting about what you know which is again an arrogant behavior  Therefore one should carefully look upon their acts since it can be perceived as being confident or being arrogant due to a slight change in your action. Your words and actions reflect your thoughts.

Hence, confidence is when you know that you can shoulder all the problems of the world and arrogance is when you think you are too good enough for the world with so many problems. Clearly, confidence and arrogance are on opposite ends of a character former one emerging as a blessing and the latter one as a weakness.

The roles I play every day with certain people, their behavior and reactions; then how I expected they would react.

A Student:  As a student, I go to college regularly and attend all the classes. Most of my teachers are friendly, because of their behavior it makes the students to co-operate nicely. I am quiet and respectful student towards my teachers, I obey with everything they say. After college I stay back at the Brit House and start working on my assignments. Then I return home at the noon and do my incomplete assignments. My teachers behave and react the same as I always expect, though sometimes I am late to hand over the assignments.

A Son:  Being a son I complete all my responsibilities. I respect my parents and do everything that they want me to do. I have the same task almost every day; also I give all my best to keep them happy.  I am respectful to them and even if they yell at me, I still stay quiet.  Sometimes I am disobedient and do things the way I want, it disappoints my parents but later I realize I shouldn't have done that and then I apologize to them. There are certain times when I do the wrong things and my parents make me understand what’s wrong and what’s right.

A Brother: As I am the elder son of the family, I have a younger brother. Being the elder one it’s my responsibility to guide him to the right path. I help him do his assignments and take some decisions. Though he is in higher secondary school, I still suggest the best things he can do; how he can improve his studies and other skills too. Sometimes I am conserved and that does not make him comfortable with me. He starts being quiet and does not talk to me much then I stop bothering him which lets him know what’s good for him.

A Friend:  Being a friend, I try to be the best what a person would expect. I like making new friends. We never know which friend might come useful to us so I am always nice to everyone. Sometimes I have to act different as in show different personality to some friends because of their nature. Inside college, I am studious and all I talk to friends is about studies. I help them with all I can and at times I really need a friend who can guide me on my projects. I expect almost same from my friends as I am nice to them most of the times but some of my friends have rude behavior for which I stop bothering.

What was I trying trying to achieve and if I succeeded?

Till now I have succeeded in trying to achieve what I want. I would like to change my thinking way; sometimes I over-think which leads me to the wrong path most of the time. Even if I over think  I like doing new stuffs and know what the outcome would be. Everyone is creative in their own ways as all we have in different is brain, which thinks differently. I am respectful to my parents and I want to get their trust by fulfilling all the responsibilities of being an elder son. Being the elder brother, I have been guiding my brother to the right path. As a student, I have always been obedient and the improvement in my studies has been proving me as a good student. Lastly being a friend, I have helped my friends with all I can and will be a trustworthy friend throughout my career.

For each of the roles I imagined a particular place, they are:

Classroom: I concentrate on what the tutor is teaching and ask him if I am confused about anything.

Room in my house: I spend some time helping my brother and do the work given by my parents.

Out with my friends: I play snooker with my friends as I am inspired from the best snooker player; Ronnie O’Sullivan. Also I love riding bikes with my friends.

Arrange all the roles in order of priority:

1.      Son

2.      Student

3.      Brother

4.      Friend